“The Eskimos had fifty-two names for snow because it was important to them: there ought to be as many for love.” – Margaret Atwood
Yesterday in the car, Miss O asked me who she should marry. Off the top of my head I said, someone who is kind, honest, funny and smart and then stopped to ask what she thought. She added, “Someone who is sweet and who likes to kiss.”
I started laughing and she explained that not all boys like to kiss which I’m sure is accurate in the 7-year-old world.
But it made me think of all the times I’ve wondered who I should love and the answer started with loving myself.
And it made me think of that WHO I should love is also an acronym for HOW I should love which I found is best with conviction, patience and kindness.
It reminded me that sometimes the answer to the question isn’t who I should love but am I brave enough to try.
Finally, I landed on what is with age becoming clearer to me is that when I tap into the Oneness of things, I find it easier to love everyone, even the people that get my goat because when I look closely there is something about them that reminds me of me.
Miss O has about 20 years until she reaches the average age of brides in this country. I hope that in that time she learns a little about love, especially self-love, before she does.
What’s your list for what to look for in a partner? And your best advice about love?
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